Counselling for family Issues and relationships in Brighton

Relationship issues can affect personal and work life.

  • Partner and ex-partner relationship problems
  • Family Relationship problems
  • Work relationship problems

Partner and ex-partner relationship problems

Over the past 30 years I have worked with men and women who have experienced often extreme difficulties in intimate sexual relationships, including working with victims and perpetrators of domestic abuse.

My work with most counselling clients may have been less dramatic in some ways, and the focus of the work has been to explore the seemingly more subtle experience of being in a relationship that you feel is not working or does not feel right. Part of that work will be to explore the nature of your current difficulties, and what are likely to be recurrent patterns that arise.  It will be important to explore and have a felt sense of how you experience intimacy and feel with a partner, and what expectations that you have. Alternatively, you may want to use counselling to face the difficulties, both emotionally and practically, of the impact of a relationship that is now over. 

I work with individuals rather than couples in this work. The focus is likely to be your experience of the day-to-day difficulties with emotional communication and learning different ways to express underlying feelings, whether big or small, in a safe way to bring about change.

Family Relationship problems

My experience in the work that I have undertaken with clients is to find the balance between your needs and the expectations of your family. This can present in issues around attachment and separation, negotiating boundaries and managing expectations, both you of them and them of you. Those difficulties can arise in all manner of family constellations:

  • Parent
  • Step-parent
  • Parent's partner
  • Siblings
  • In-laws

What is likely to prove important will be the thoughts, feelings and behaviour that reoccur and lead to arguments that remain unresolved. Finding a way to express strongly held thoughts and feelings and be heard, both in the counselling room with me and in your other relationships, will be crucial to how things may be able to be changed.

Work Relationship Problems

Difficulties can arise in a range of ways and with a range of people: colleagues, supervisors and manager. 

My experience is that people can feel disrespected, criticised and bullied without knowing how to respond. Identifying the core issues that arise will be crucial to plan a way of responding in the work place. You may notice a recurring relationship theme in these difficulties. It will be important to use the time we have together during your counselling to identify what you want to say or express, and to support you and help increase the level of your confidence in dealing with the consequences of the decisions you make.

Gary Evident BACP registered member