Hello, my name is Gary Evident and I am a qualified, experienced and accredited counsellor and have been working in Brighton and Hove at the Rock Clinic and in private practice since 2004. Many of the people I have worked with have come for counselling after struggling to cope emotionally on their own. They have said often that what had stopped them coming earlier were feelings of embarrassment and fear that they would be judged if they were to admit that all is not well.
It takes courage to walk through a counsellor's door and speak of troubling and personal issues to a perfect stranger. However, we often need to step away from the everyday and speak to someone outside of our immediate circle. This can be a difficult process for many people, yet my experience is that most people feel a great sense of relief once they are able to express themselves and find a way forward.
My approach to counselling is to offer you a safe and confidential space, and an opportunity to slow down and sit with something that is felt strongly but may be confusing and not yet fully understood. You do not have to be in crisis or have a mental health problem to have counselling, and may just need some time and space to find the felt focus of what is bothering you, and what you want to change. Such feelings may centre around anxiety and depression, or a particular issue with a relationship, whether past or present.
Whilst I use a use a range of therapeutic theories and wisdoms as part of my counselling approach, I work in a integrative way which means focussing on what is important to you. Whilst there may be factors from the past that will be important for you to talk about, I seek to help you to understand and focus on your current everyday experience in making sense of the world and your place in it.
Research suggests that the most important part in helping people in counselling is the quality of the relationship between counsellor and client. It will be crucial that you feel able to trust and relax with me in order to share your difficulties and your joys. Our work together may involve exploring the influence of early experiences and how that impacts on current intimate relationships. It may also be helpful to identify negative thoughts we hold about ourselves and the world. In my experience, what is frequently the key is to understand how the different aspects of our life interact on how we feel day-to-day.